Beyond Processes: How Three Guiding Principles Led Me to True Success as an Executive Assistant and Leader

During my career, I have implemented efficient systems and achieved numerous accomplishments. Nevertheless, the most valuable lessons that have contributed to my success are the ones I've learned along the way. I've come to understand that being an authentic leader is not about what you do but who you are. Three principles have helped me reshape my approach to serving other leaders. 

Putting Them First: A Lesson In Flexibility

Being an ESTJ with an Enneagram 1 personality, my world thrives on structure. Yet, the real challenge came when unexpected changes rocked the boat; the shifting schedules and last-minute adjustments to my leader's calendar frustrated me. A pivotal conversation with my mentor, who shared a similar personality profile, reframed my perspective: "Don't let your pride get in the way. It's not about you." This revelation marked a turning point. My role transcends the execution of tasks; it is about serving a leader. Adapting to unexpected changes while staying focused became a skill, and I learned that flexibility is key to demonstrating humility. 

Aligning Goals: Value What They Value

While personal goals naturally take center stage, true growth lies in aligning them with the leader's vision. Early on, I consciously decided to understand what mattered most to my leader, and I prioritized their interests above my own, adjusting my goals to align with their vision. The lesson here is clear: success is not just about personal achievement but about contributing to the success of the team and the organization. It's about valuing what they value and making it the most important thing to you.

Elevating Relationships: Praise Publicly, Disagree Privately

Building trust is the backbone of any professional relationship. One of the most effective ways to do this is by praising publicly and disagreeing privately. Working alongside a leader with whom I often disagreed, I honored him publicly while having difficult conversations behind closed doors. It's not just about disagreements; it's about openly recognizing and acknowledging your leader's strengths and achievements in front of others. Your approach is a true reflection of your character and leaves an enduring mark. 

These three principles—embracing flexibility, aligning personal goals with the leader's vision, and mastering the art of public praise and private disagreements—have been my secret sauce for success as an Executive Assistant and Leader. So the next time you feel you've tried it all, remember this - true success lies not just in what you do but in who you become on the journey.